Positive discipline tactics

Kena buat rujukan ni sebab i kurang sabaq bila berdepan dengan kerenah anak-anak yang semakin cerdik pandai. Ya Allah, berikan aku kekuatan untuk menahan amarah ku..InsyaAllah!

Let's share the info which i read in babycenter.com

What you can do
Among the "positive" approaches that often work with toddlers:

•Do as I do. Children imitate adults, so if you show good behavior, your child will take your lead. If you want him to say "please" and "thank you," be sure to use those terms with him and others. ( i did this tapi banyak lagi behavior kita yang kena watch out. they observe that. my boys did imitate kami solat n also mengaji...alhamdulillah.)

•Speak respectfully. Your child is more likely to listen if you talk, rather than yell, and if you make eye contact with him. ( kalau i sabaq, memang cakap lemah lembut la. tapi bila hilang sabaq tu la jadi yelling, pulling, slaping :p adoi...ganasnya mama ni. oopsss.. yang ni memang i kena banyak belajar untuk jadi sabar. Bukankah "Allah sentiasa bersama orang-orang yang sabar"..kena banyak zhikir ni)

•Tell him what you want rather than what you don't. For instance, say "Touch the kitty gently," instead of "Don't hit the kitty!" Or, "Please sit down," instead of "Don't stand up in your chair." ( i am practising this...memang berbuih la mulut...huhu. baru tau betapa susahnya nak jaga anak. takat anak kucing boleh la biar je nak buat apa pun. ni anak sendiri memang beremosi la bila menjaganya.)

•Make some simple rules. Establish a few household rules, communicate them to your child, and enforce them consistently. Don't expect your toddler to know better. Simple rules that protect health and safety, such as no running in the street and no hitting, are reasonable for toddlers to follow. Don't give him a long list of "don't touches." You're better off keeping things like the VCR and your fine crystal out of his reach. ( rasanya approach yang paling berkesan is bagi reason untuk apa yang boleh and also tak boleh. esp reason untuk "no no" la..kena konkrit and logik gitu. kalau tak, jenuh nak menjawab..)

•Reward the positive. Positive behavior will continue and even increase if your child gets attention for it. "Thanks for sharing that toy with your sister," is one example, or "Wow, you put your cup on the table." ( alhamdullilah, my parents always taught me this and now i am teaching my boys. memang they will get reward if they show positive behaviour)

**reward tu bukan semata-mata wang ringgit and coklat yer. kata-kata pujian untuk anak-anak tu memang penting. they like it and i like it too :D

Source: http://www.babycenter.com/